Wow, what an adventure it is raising three teens at once! I downloaded this audiobook ‘Boundaries with Teens’ by John Townsend, and so far am getting so much out of it! Just wanted to share a few little tidbits I picked up while listening. This particular passage discusses the importance of a healthy support system while raising teens. Enjoy!
4 characteristics of good connections:
We need friends who can let us be ourself. Who accept our vulnerabilities, and who love us and give us grace no matter what.
1. Grace-No judgement, Friends who are FOR us no matter what, friends who will love us unconditionally without judgement no matter how miserably we think we are failing. Friends We can share anything with, without them freaking out. This makes us more honest and open about our problems. This openness then leads to more successful solutions. Gods greatest gift ‘grace’ comes from Him and through us. When we have relationship with people who walk in grace, we KNOW that we dont have to have it together or put on a happy face. People of grace will move closer to us and not be put off by our issues.
2. Identification– Finding the right friends who we can identify with helps us feel like we are not alone, and there are others just as ‘crazy’ as us 🙂 This provides connection, encouragement and hope.
3 Guidance -Get connected with mature people who have been down your road.
4. Reality-connect with people who will keep you grounded and centered in reality, that can help stabilize you. Sometimes friends can give us a broader perspective than the one we are experiencing. Find friends who are not black and white thinkers and who dont pretend to have an answer for every problem. People who live in reality can live with conflict and pain.
God designed us to be connected to Him first and foremost. We need the help that only He can give.
Taken from ‘Boundaries with Teens” John Townsend